you know what, i think sometimes it's better not to care for a person more than you think they care for themselves. because in doing so, you somehow end up being a threat to that person. anything or anybody that projects him/herself as someone better to anyone is always considered a threat by default. trust me, you do not want to rival the subconscious of the person you oh so care about. too much care and/or love can often yield undesirable results. balance and being sensitive of course is the key here.